Here are a few of my favorites.
I hope you find them just as delightful and useful as I have!
For Parents & Caregivers:
Karen Rayne is an author, speaker, curriculum developer, sexuality educator, and all-around badass. This book is the first one I recommend to everyone I know who works with, lives with, or cares for young people, pre-teens, and teens. Find Karen's newest book for teens/20s girls in the next section!
Cory Silverberg is a Canadian author who has published books you'll want in any growing child's room. What Makes A Baby (best for ages 4-8) explains conception, pregnancy, and birth in ways that aren't gendered and will work with whatever family structure you live and love in. Sex Is A Funny Word (best for ages 8-10) explores bodies, gender, and sexuality in a conversational way that facilitates connection and communication between children and the caregivers who love them.
Robie Harris is known for children's books like It's Perfectly Normal, It's So Amazing, It's Not the Stork!, and more. She does an excellent job of explaining sexuality, bodies, gender, and growing up to young people in a factual, intersectional, kind, and easy-to-understand way. They're my go-to gift for parents of curious lil' ones!
For Teens & Young people:
The fiercely fabulous and brilliant creator of Scarleteen, Heather Corinna, recently released a second edition of their guide to all things sexual health, relationships, and sexuality. I refer to this resource more than almost any other; it's the ultimate sexuality guide, and it'll have a cherished space on any bookshelf.
Karen Rayne is AMAZING, and her newest book was worth every second of the wait! Girl is everything that I wish I had on my shelf when I was in high school and college. The book isn't just educational; it includes honest, heart-wrenching, hilarious diary entries from real girls, and it provides insightful questions for readers to think about as they go through each section. Buy this for all the girls and young women/femmes in your life.
This is the first sexuality book written specifically to speak to teen boys and the unique experiences they have around sex, sexuality, dating, and love. Dr. Andrew Smiler breaks down topics like toxic masculinity, body image, consent, and feelings as they relate to teen and pre-teen guys.
Scarleteen is one of the most rad websites I know of. It has thoughtful, detailed, supportive answers to every question a teen might come up with related to sexuality, bodies, sex, relationships, break-ups, intimacy, and so much more. It might even answer some questions that have been lingering in adults' brains for a while!
That's Not Cool is a social hub of information and advocacy to raise awareness to end teen dating violence. Whether it's digital, physical, emotional, or otherwise - abuse is dangerous and unacceptable, and teens face dating abuse at alarming levels. That's Not Cool invites teens to be advocates for each other. (Check out loveisrespect.org for more info like this!)
Sex, Etc. is an amazing example of how teens can advocate for and teach each other about sexuality and sexual health. With each article researched and written by teens themselves, this website is an awesome way to get comprehensive sex ed into the hands of your teen.
For Educators & Aspiring Sexuality Professionals:
Based in Pawtucket, RI, the CSPH is the ultimate resource for pleasure-positive, trauma-informed, LGBQ/T-inclusive adult sex education and professional development. The CSPH is an AASECT-approved CE provider and offers trainings and workshops year-round, including professional learning webinars, a Sexual Attitude Reassessment (SAR), and a Jumpstart Your Career in Sexuality course for folks who are new to, or interested in, the amazing field of sexuality!
The CSE hosts the annual National Sex Ed Conference (NSEC), publishes amazing sex ed curricula for people of all ages, and is a hugely positive, supportive, and welcoming force in the sexuality field. If you're headed to NSEC this Deecember, you might just see me there!
For curious (adult) humans:
Emily Nagoski's Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life quickly became one of my favorite books on sexuality, and one that I continually reference for workshops and answering questions. It's geared towards vulva-owners, but its insights into sexuality, desire, and intimacy are near-universal.
Meet the only sex guide you'll actually read cover to cover as an adult. Allison Moon takes readers on a road trip down the west coast, and along the way, her main characters learn about bodies, sexuality, gender, attraction, desire, orgasm, safer sex, how to "drive a vulva," how to have a conversation about STIs, and so much more! Written in comic/graphic-novel style, this is one you won't want to put down.
Created by the effervescent and brilliant Kate McCombs, Sex Geekdom is an international community for sex geeks from all kinds of backgrounds and career paths to meet regularly and have meaningful conversations about sexuality. There are hubs in cities all over the world - see if sex geeks are meeting up near you!